Not sure spending thousands on a gift is the best thing for the new family

by on May.17, 2012, under Journal

Rich celebrities are accustomed to being gifted with expensive jewelry, and the trend extends to the day they give birth. Case in point: Pierce Brosnan gave wife Keely three gold and diamond bracelets when their son Paris was born. Ben Affleck presented wife Jennifer Garner with pricey purple jewelry after she delivered daughter Violet (which the unfussy and practical Mrs. Affleck reportedly made him return). Sarah Jessica Parker got a gorgeous charm bracelet from hubby Matthew Broderick when son James made his debut. Tiffany Earrings Other celeb dads celebrate the arrival of their new babies by buying their wives and girlfriends expensive bling such as diamond rings, diamond earrings, pearl necklaces, pearl earrings, and jewelry made with their baby’s birthstone.

Up until a few years ago, these “push presents,”–so named because they’re tokens of appreciation for labor–were news to me. All I got when I delivered my son was…my son. Not to say that I’m not immensely grateful; he’s my pride and joy. But a nice pair of diamond studs or a pearl cocktail ring, Tiffany Rings UK say, to show me that my husband appreciated my months of hard pregnancy and hours of even harder labor would have been “ice” on the cake.

What made the lack of gift worse was that many of my girlfriends got stunning jewelry from their thoughtful and grateful husbands. My favorites were a pearl bracelet, sapphire and diamond earrings, a diamond and yellow gold band, and a princess cut yellow diamond ring.

Poor dear, my husband didn’t know it was done.

Apparently, he’s not alone. In researching this article, I sent a query to all the guys on my e-mail list (whose wives can thank me later). Tiffany Cufflinks In addition to wanting to know if they knew what a push present was, I also wanted know if they thought the idea was touching or silly. Did it put pressure on them? Was it just another damn thing they’d have to spend money on?

Naturally, the feedback I got was as varied as the guys on my e-mail list, which includes my boss, my trainer at the gym, my brother, my best friend’s brother, my neighbors, my co-workers, and my dentist, to name a few.

First, for the sweet:
From Dave: “Yes, I gave my wife a gift. I didn’t feel pressured. She deserved it and more.”

From John: “I did buy my wife a charm bracelet after our daughter Lindsay was born. It had charms on it for both of our daughters.”

From Taylor: “Yes, I bought my wife gifts both times in addition to flowers. The first time was a cultured pearl necklace (like she needs more jewelry). The last was a Kate Spade diaper bag.”

From Wayne, father of four: “Maybe for one or two, True Religion Jeans Sale certainly not all four.” [I certainly remember: Wayne's wife, my friend Sandy, was the recipient of the highly coveted and aforementioned sapphire and diamond earrings.]

From Howie: “Considering my wife had a C-section with both girls, is there a cut present?”
“I gave my wife a birthstone for each girl, but forget the ‘push present’ idea. Those nine months are the easy part. It’s for the 18 years afterwards that you have to give your wife the gifts! Honestly, those two girls can scream!”

Dennis: “Funny, before my wife was pregnant I never head of a push present. My buddy and his wife had a baby four months before us and his wife was sure to tell my wife about this gift thing. It’s not that I wouldn’t have gotten my wife and mother of my son a great gift, but it was put into the realm of ‘did your husband get you a diamond bracelet?’ type thing. It goes to show that keeping up with the Joneses makes some folks do things they might not otherwise do.” [OK, maybe this answer doesn't technically fall under the sweet category as it's got some ambivalence tossed in.]

“Not sure spending thousands on a gift is the best thing for the new family. Was this gift idea created by the diamond companies? So, yes, I did get my wife a gift. Before I’d even heard of a push present, I had my son’s birthstone set in a ring and necklace.”

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